Thursday, July 31, 2008

Can Someone Please Just Tell Me Why . . .

My unemployed and uninspired Mother is too busy to talk to me?

I've been trying to call and chat with her; not to give her a hard time, but just to see how she's doing and how she's handling things. So why can't I get her to stop moving and give me 10 uninterrupted minutes?

Let me tell you, this is a stretch for me already, because I despise talking on the telephone. Ask anyone who knows me. If anyone actually wants to talk to me, they have to call either Mom #2 or Baby Boy on their cell phones and have them to tell me to answer my phone . . . because I have no problem letting it ring all day long.

I actually have probably only initiated a hand full of phone calls in my entire life, and the majority of those were to call businesses and complain. Complaining is my phone specialty. If I'm on the phone, I'm usually ticked off . . . but I've put all my usual issues with the telephone aside and tried to call Mom every day this week now.

Here's how it's been going:

  • On Monday, she couldn't talk because she was out shopping to buy herself a new outfit so she could get her mind off the stress of losing her job (yes, the one she walked in and quit without notice).

  • On Tuesday, she couldn't talk because she was going to a matinĂ©e with some lady from her church.

  • On Wednesday, she couldn't talk because she was getting a massage.

  • This morning, I thought I'd mix it up a bit and call her early this morning, before she got out and about. But the joke was on me! Do you know that she is already on her way to get a manicure so she can be done in time for a "ladies who lunch" session with her church lady friend?

Apparently, I've been living my life the wrong way all these years. I thought that if you had no job, no income of any kind, and threw away your chances of collecting unemployment income, you saved money, not spent it all, but alas . . . as usual, I am mistaken.

Insanity ~ ~ Membership has it's privileges.


Until Next Time . . .


Ami said...

Damn. I was going to call you today, too. That was number one on my list!

I wish I had advice for you, but I do not. Until a person can recognize he or she has a problem, there is nothing anyone else can do. When the person admits there might be something wrong, then they have to take the steps to help themselves, which is scary. So most of the time, they never admit the problem. Easier that way.

I know I mentioned that I'm a survivor of a mentally ill parent. Although not the same, the behaviors you're describing are similar to his.

The hardest part for me was finally learning that it was not possible for me to help him or to fix him in any way.

It's one reason we don't live very close. It's hard to watch.

Freakmom said...

I always thought you had to work for a living to spend money too. Silly us.

Speaking of working, you asked what I do. I am a CPA for an accounting firm. When I decided to stay home with Violet I started doing behind the scenes research and writing for them. I specialize in healthcare, mainly nursing homes. We do a lot of consulting nationwide in that area. Works great to be home all day.

Heather said...

The great thing about not taking any responsibility for yourself or your problems, is that you never have to feel guilty about anything you do. I wish I could live in such a rose-colored world. If only I could get past that silly need for personal security.

kitten said...

Maybe that's her way of dealing. I'm not a phone person either, so I don't know what to say, but send big hugs!
The answer to my questions are all over my blog. HINT HINT!
Hope things look brighter!

Anonymous said...

Hey, you mean, I can spend all the money I want and not work. James has been asking for a pool too. If only I knew . . .

Deep breap breaths. Take care.

Michelle said...

I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to say that I'm sorry that you're dealing with this.

Jason said...

I used to love talking on the phone, but now I just hate it, like you. It feels like such an interruption, and I hate feeling like a slave to the phone.

Anyway, hang in there with your mom and all she brings....

kitten said...

Yes, You can still play! That's the FUN!!!! :)
I'll let you know tomorrow if you won or not!

Anonymous said...

ROTFLOL! Man! I have I been wrong all of these years. I really have my priorities wrong. ;)

Too funny!

kitten said...

If she hadn't guess it right also, you would have won. You came close!
Take care!! Thank you for playing! I really enjoyed. Too bad I can't afford to have more fun contest. At least it took my mind off things for a bit!
You feeling better?

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